Gotham Gal: Off to college

We are dropping Jessica off at college tomorrow. First kid to leave the nest. No doubt the other 2 will be gone before we know it. Of course the first question everyone asks when they hear Jessica is going to college this year is “how do you feel about that”? So, how do I feel about that?

In all honesty, I am elated for her. We spent the last 18 years preparing her to fly independently. She is her own person. Of course, all parents see the things in their kid that they feel they helped mold but she has taken what she wanted from us and made them her own. We can give advice if she asks us for it but she is now an adult and she chooses how to spend her money, how she lives her life, the friends that she makes and the path she wants to pursue. We have done our job and we are thrilled.

Certainly living in a household that loves music, loves food, loves travel, loves pop culture and fashion, loves technology and loves everything that urban living has to offer Jessica has embraced. But her loves are about her they aren’t about us. Not easy to understand that as a parent but that is something Jessica taught me. She started breaking away and through that process, although not always easy, I learned from her that she is her own person. A fantastic person at that.

I am not one to look backward, never have. Quite frankly neither is Fred. I could go back and recount a variety of memories but I am not sure that being nostalgic is the right thing at this moment and I am not a very nostalgic person. I just can’t believe that in 5 years we will have an empty nest. Everyone is already taller than me, I do realize my age but having 3 adult kids navigating their own lives is going to be strange yet exciting at the same time. In many ways, Jessica leaving will the most difficult for Josh and Emily.

Jessica is the first one to fly and she is just beginning her journey. I am sure I will cry, as everyone in my family knows that I cry at everything, but honestly, I am absolutely thrilled for her. She worked hard to get where she is and now she is going to enjoy the fruits of her labor. Bravo!

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